Working with the Subconscious Mind

Learn 5 ways to change your subconscious mind!

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TOPICS

- What is the subconscious mind and why it's important

- 5 ways to heal and change beliefs in the subconscious: journaling, somatic work, hypnotherapy, psychic healing, talk therapy

- Tips for working with the subconscious like observing patterns, noticing irrational responses, reflecting on feedback

- Inner child needs and how they relate to subconscious beliefs

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- Our subconscious mind makes decisions for us and influences our thoughts, feelings and actions

- To change subconscious beliefs we must use modalities that access deeper levels of mind like those discussed

- Becoming aware of patterns, irrational responses, and feedback can provide clues about subconscious beliefs

- Inner child needs are important to consider when reflecting on formative childhood experiences

Transcript

The subconscious demonstrates doesn't communicate. So you're not going to hear yourself think you have a fear that you're not going to be loved. But you might demonstrate that you are, abandon your own needs and desires for what you think somebody else needs and desires.

This season on the living out love podcast, we are focusing on you, who you are, what motivates you, what you're here to contribute, and how you can expand will be utilizing my leadership skills and spiritual connection. diving deep into the Enneagram and astrology. Listen every week to become intimately aware of yourself. Only then can heal and grow. Let's get to work loves.

Introduction

Hello, love's Welcome back to the living out love podcast, I am as always thrilled to be here. Last week, we started our two part series on the subconscious mind. And so last week, we talked about what is the subconscious? Why is it important? And what the heck is in there? Where does our subconscious come from the soup of the subconscious, I called it. So in case you missed last week, briefly, basically the subconscious is the part of our brain that we are not consciously aware of meaning we don't hear it think.

But it does control our influence, rather our thoughts and our feelings, and thus our actions. And as I covered last week comes from all sorts of places, we inherit things in our DNA, we form beliefs in our childhood, there's collective conditioning, there's media consumption, like there's all sorts of inputs that affect the subconscious. Now, one thing I forgot to say last week that I do want to mention, before we get started today is that our brains are prediction machines, that's what they do. And our brains job is primarily to keep us safe. And it one of the ways in which it does that is by trying to predict our reality. And thus, part of the reason our subconscious matters is because it is a part of predicting a reality. And it is at all times trying to keep us safe and alive and well. And so often our subconscious is making decisions for us, before we've even realized it.

So if some time if somebody says, Well, why didn't you, you know, do XYZ, and you say, that never occurred to me, it didn't occur to me to do XYZ? Well, that's because your subconscious decided for you ahead of time. So I just want to add that to everything that we covered last week about why the subconscious is so important and why it's worth working on. So today, we are going to talk all about how to work with the subconscious, both in terms of how to get familiar with it, and in terms of how to heal it if there's something you want to change. And that's super yours. So first and foremost, with the subconscious, it all starts with observation. That is what we have, we can reflect on patterns. So is there anything in your life that you've been wanting to change that you have just been unable to change? I use the example last week of there's that proverbial example that we use a lot in our culture about the the that woman that dates the same man over and over and over again, or marry you know, the man that marries the same woman over and over again, it's like we have these patterns that for some reason, we keep reenacting. So that might be a sign that there's something going on in your subconscious that you could maybe look at, if you care about changing the pattern.

You could also start to reflect and notice, where are you abandoning yourself? Where are you unaware of what you don't have? Sorry? Where are you unaware of what you do want? Like, are there places where your instinct is to take care of other people so much that you don't even know what you want? Have you gotten feedback that doesn't make sense to you? And have you heard that feedback multiple times? These are times in which it's kind of a clue that you might have some cuts subconscious work to do. I would also look at do you have anything that seems quote irrational? So are you dealing with anxiety in ways that you're like, why am I having anxiety about this? Or why am I having fear about this situation, this interview this flight, whatever it is, if there are things to you that feel as though you have no reason, quote, no past history, to lead you to feel what you're feeling or think what you're thinking, then that's a clue that this is a subconscious situation and you want to deal with it at that level.

Now, the best way, in my opinion, to really work with your subconscious and to develop an ongoing intimate relationship with your subconscious is to be in the moment aware of your body. And if you are not new to this podcast, you have heard me stand on this soapbox, what is your body telling you? Are you in fight flight freeze are fine. Are you feeling this sense of urgency adrenaline? Are you experiencing a tunnel vision about what needs to happen? Do you have a sense of dread or anxiety that is hard for you to identify? What is your heart rate doing? How is your breath? Are you completely checked out and disassociated? Do you not even know what's going on with your body, these types of awarenesses they will give you clues as to what's happening in your subconscious. So remember, the subconscious demonstrates, doesn't communicate. So you're not going to hear yourself think you have a fear that you're not going to be loved. But you might demonstrate that you are abandon your own needs, and desires for what you think somebody else needs and desires.

So your subconscious mind isn't going to tell you you're doing this because you want to be loved. It's just going to decide ahead of time that what you need to do is focus on what that person wants and solve for that person. Subconscious demonstrates not communicates, it's not going to tell you what the belief is, but it's going to illuminate where you need healing, the quickest way to notice that is to be aware of your body. So in my situation I shared last week like I, in my subconscious, I have this belief that I am not already safe, and that I need to seek safety and my safety will be found in the opinion of others. And so the way that that can present itself out in the world is a it doesn't occur to me sometimes to ask for what I want or need. And by sometimes, I mean often.

And I will catch myself solving for what I think somebody else wants and needs in order to please them. And oftentimes, they don't even want to be pleased. This isn't something that they've asked, they would much rather me speak my own thoughts and opinions. But because my subconscious is solving for you need to be liked and loved, it's immediately going to go to projecting what is the predictable outcome of that? What is the predictable thing that this person might want for me? And how can I give it to them ahead of time, so that I can make sure that I'm safe. So that's the way that my body will experience that is I will notice, perhaps a sense of urgency. Typically, for me, it's urgency, like it's like, Oh, I gotta do this thing, and I gotta do it right now. Or, I will have almost a sense of over compassion of over empathizing. So I will be feeling so much empathy for somebody that in my body just feels like I'm being a loving human being.

But in hindsight, I can realize I'm feeling so much compassion and empathy for this other person. I'm not at all aware of what's happening in my body. So that's my version of disassociating. It's not that I don't feel anything, it's that I feel a lot. But what I'm feeling is not my quote stuff. So it's inappropriate for me.

So that's, that's my example of how my body likes to illuminate what needs healing is I will feel too much something that is basically a projection of what somebody else is experiencing. And not enough of, oh, I'm experiencing stress at what might be a conflict or I'm experiencing fear at what might be a conflict. And also there will be for me this sense of urgency. For you, it might be different, which is why you have to get to know your body. For some people. Their subconscious is protecting them from a fear and so rather than feeling fear, their body will feel anger and they'll go into action, and they will never figure out what they're afraid of.

So it's very tricky. It's very layered. So subconscious starts with reflection. Observe your patterns in life, and reflect on what your body is telling you and this is not something that you're going to be able to be you know, one and done. This is something that takes repeated practice, and it will evolve. As you heal and grow and your life expands and you get put in new situations, the physical triggers that once talked to, you may change. And you may have to become familiar with a different set of physical experiences in order to highlight that you're falling into a pattern or that your subconscious is trying to get your attention in some way. Now, I didn't put this in my outline, but I will also say our subconscious works a lot through dreams, and through meditation. And so you can go to a previous episode, I believe it was season one, it might have been season two, where I talk all about dreams.

Dive into that, that's another way that our subconscious can talk to us. But on this podcast episode, I'm trying to stay focused on what we can do within our conscious mind regarding the subconscious. Hang in there, folks. I know that's a lot of words.

Okay, so I want to reference while we're talking about the body, what is the body telling us there is I'm partnering with somatic coach Allison Reeves for an in person event April 13, one to 5pm, Houston, Texas, and Allison is certified somatic coach and one of the platforms, lenses paradigms that she works with is inner child needs. And when she sent me this list, I was like, Yes, this is everything to me. So I'm going to read you six general categories for inner child needs and just you know, put these in your back pocket pull them out when you need them acknowledgement Am I noticed attention? Am I seen? Approval? Am I safe? Acceptance, am I included? affirmation? Am I understood? Affection Am I loved.

Now, some of these in previous generations of parenting, if we were to look at am I included Am I understood, we might have considered those to be like fluffy, emotional needs, those those are, quote, emotional needs that have been either downplayed or not talked about. But we're primal human beings, and we're tribal human beings. And we need a tribe in order to stay safe. Even, even today, even today, when Amazon can deliver everything and everything's on Zoom. Even today, all the research says you need relationship, you'll live longer, you'll be healthier if you have relationships. So even today, these things matter.

So as a child, if one of these perhaps was not fully fleshed out, or you wrote certain beliefs around what it takes to be safe, what it takes to be understood what it takes to be loved. At some point, you're most likely going to outgrow that scenario, what serves you as a child will likely not to serve you every day of your life, at some point, you're going to need a new set of skills. So being aware of, as I spoke to you last week, the childhood beliefs, you could look through these lenses of inner child needs, and think, What beliefs that I create around what it takes to be noticed, to be seen to be safe, to be included, understood, loved, what beliefs that I create around that. And how are those being demonstrated to me? Because again, we can't trust that we're going to understand our subconscious. So you really have to look in hindsight and think, is that what I'm demonstrating?

Because I have a conscious belief that I'm very lovable, like, I have a conscious belief that, you know, I'm petite and bubbly and smiley, and, you know, lots of people respond well to me, but subconsciously, that's not what plays out. That's not what is demonstrated. So when you're looking at these inner child beliefs, you know, step one, look reflectively what you think you created as a belief regarding these needs. But also think back to what it's actually been demonstrated.

How have you actually lived out the use questions. Am I included? My understood? Am I loved? Am I safe? Am I seen Am I noticed? Do people care about me? Am I real? Do I exist? These are, they seem like big, vague grandiose questions, but they are so important. And another thing I want to say about just becoming aware of what your subconscious mind is holding, is if you have awareness of yourself this season, we're focusing a lot on the Enneagram and astrology, because when you have this deep awareness of who you are, that gives you some insight into what your wounds might be.

And of course, these present differently in the Enneagram and astrology, the astrology is highly customized to your natal birth chart, and highly complex. Whereas the Enneagram also was quite complex, but it doesn't have the same customization as astrology. They're both great tools, they will both help you really get into the weeds on what might be happening in your subconscious. What motivates you, what are you solving for? What might your wounds be? And what beliefs might you need to create in your subconscious mind, in order to live out love in order to expand to your highest self, the best embodiment of who your soul came here to be?

The Subconscious Mind and Its Importance

So that's the intro. That's just the intro to this episode, the intro to the episode is how do we work with the subconscious? And in general, the answer is reflection, realizing that the subconscious demonstrates more than it communicates, and doing whatever you can do to gain greater awareness of your patterns. And noticing when feedback doesn't hit right, or when you're hearing things multiple times. And it doesn't make sense to you. Those sorts of things. Noticing when you're experiencing something that seems irrational, why would I have anxiety about getting on a plane? Nothing bad has ever happened to me about getting on a plane, etc. But oftentimes, it's not quite that obvious. Which is why it's complicated. And we need several episodes on the subconscious. Okay, so part two of this episode, I want to talk about how do we heal the subconscious mind? How do we change what's in our soup?

Ultimately, it's about the relationship to the body. And we can, we can go at it from both angles, let's assume that there's the mind and there's the body, you can start by making the body feel safe, and then your subconscious will realize it safe. Or you can start by working with the subconscious, and then your body will follow.

So there's not one right direction. But in general, your body and your subconscious are paired. And if you don't identify both the healings not going to stick. So I'm going to cover five possibilities for healing the subconscious. Healing can include like rewriting, quote, harmful or outdated beliefs, it can also include trying to create new beliefs that are better serving you.

All five of the possibilities, I'm gonna go over I have personal experience with some of the beliefs that I have tried to heal with that my subconscious mind, I've tried, probably all five of these things, and I still have work to do. And then there have been some beliefs where I only had to do one of these interventions, and it stuck. So I say that to lay the groundwork of, there's not one method that's going to work for you. Because we don't know what we don't know about the subconscious mind, we can't predict what's going to be the thing that helps us heal it. So

I just invite you to be surrendered to the process and see what works. Sometimes it's only going to take one of these things only going to take an hour sometimes it takes years and you have to do lots of things and have lots of experiences. So I'm gonna go over five things that are avenues for working with your subconscious mind for healing it for altering it.

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Journaling

And just know you may have to try all of them. You may only have to try one or two of them and see what sticks. Okay, so the first avenue is just reflection and journaling and journaling. I find that this is the most helpful when you want to identify what you want to believe. So this is like, for me, this is the most helpful when I want to move forward or word. So let's say I want to believe that I'm smart, and then I'm capable. Well, then I can reflect and journal on all the times in ways in which I have shown up as smart and capable.

And the journaling aspect is important here, it is important that we write things down, there's been lots of research about what happens to our brains, we write things down. And I'm not going to reference it here. But it is important for our learning, it's important for the brain's alignment with our thoughts and ideas. They have proven this in terms of healing trauma, they've proven this in terms of attaining goals. So both in terms of healing negative and creating positive, it's important that we write things down. So for journaling, for me, personally, I find journaling most effective when I'm trying to cement into my subconscious, a new belief. So somewhere in my subconscious, I've, I have a belief that I'm not smart enough, or that I can't figure things out. So for me, every time I can identify, oh, look at that thing, I figured out pat on the back, Amy, when I can write that down and spend however much time in my body feeling, oh, look at that, I am smart, I am capable. And I can cement that in my body. That's very important.

So observe yourself, catch yourself in the act of what you want to believe. Write it down. And then you know, extra credit plan on how you'll achieve this again, let that sort of create this energetic momentum of I was smart today. And you know what, I'm going to do this tomorrow, I've already got that figured out, look at me
Allow that to create kind of a law of attraction, but this shift in momentum.

A caveat here, because if you're anything like me, you have an ego. And so as soon as you write down all the things about how smart you are, and how capable you are, your brain is going to feed you with other thoughts. It's gonna say things like, well, you just got lucky. Or that only worked out because you had that great boss, right?

Egos gonna say some things. That is okay. That's okay. Remember, we are surrendered to the process of the subconscious mind. We don't know what all is in the soup. But the ego is definitely part of it. So what I do, what I recommend you do when the ego pops up, is you say, oh, my gosh, I hear you, I get it, I hear you, you don't get to decide what I believe. I'm choosing to believe something different. I'm going to choose a belief that comes from love rather than fear.

It's my fear that I'm not smart enough or capable enough, but I love myself enough to know that I am. And I love life enough to know that I am. And so what I do is I honor my ego. And I say thank you ego, you are trying to keep me safe. And I know that you're trying to keep me safe. Because my brain is a prediction machine. And if you can keep me in my patterns, my brain can predict what's going to happen, and it can keep me safe. So anytime we try to change our subconscious mind, we're going to run in to the ego.

Our ego is going to try to hold us back and say but the data and that's okay. You're like, I knew you were gonna do this, you are just trying to keep me safe. And maybe there's an element of what you're saying that's true, that's fine. But also, this is what I'm going to choose to believe this is what I'm going to choose to focus on and Brain Body, you're just going to have to learn that we're safe. Just kind of get that get that figured out.

So you can also you can also use journaling to try to identify your subconscious beliefs like what's already in your brain. Obviously, it will just help you to notice the patterns like what we said earlier, just reflect back notice patterns. If you've been given feedback multiple times, if you're not understanding why you're having perhaps what seems like an irrational response to something. Journaling may help you with that. So journaling will work in both directions. For me personally, I find it most helpful to work and moving forward. But perhaps that's because I'm an out loud processor. And so when I'm when I'm reflecting I need to process out loud for you. It may be just as effective to use journaling as a hindsight reflection. So that's tool number one reflection journaling. Write down what it is you're wanting to believe what it is you're trying to get your subconscious to cement

To surrender to the process and expect your ego to come at you with something. And just remember, your ego is just trying to keep you safe, our brains are trying to predict what's going to happen. And if all of a sudden you're changing the rules of life, then our brains not going to know what to do for a bit. And that's why that comes up, it doesn't come up because it's true, doesn't come up, because you're not worthy of the growth and expansion. It just comes up. Because we have primitive brains, and they're trying to keep us safe.

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Somatic Work

Okay. Second possibility for healing. This is, I'm gonna call it somatic work, it can also be called parts work. This is a very physical intervention. And basically, this is asking you to welcome any motion into your body. Embrace it, welcome it, focus on it, expand that feeling. Identify where you're feeling that emotion, so than your stomach? Is it outside of you? Is it hot? Is it churning? Like, what is? What are you feeling in your body?

And then ask yourself, or have I honestly, I say work with a facilitator on this. Even for me, it's way easier with a facilitator but ask the question, What does my emotion have to tell me? And this is a situation in which those inner child needs that I mentioned earlier, the acknowledgement, affection, affirmation. These are times in which you might see those themes pop up.

If you're having anger about something, if you're having fear about something and you ask that anger in that fear, what is it that you need? I mean, I've been surprised. I'm a 37 year old woman, and I was doing this with Allison, my somatic coach, not that many months ago. And at some point, I just said to her, I just want my mom. Like it was such an inner child moment of just, am I loved? And can I be nurtured in this moment.

And as soon as I realized that's what I needed, I was able to give myself that nurturing in seconds. It didn't literally mean I needed my mom. But because I was able to go into the feeling of like, what is my body telling me, it was hard for me to identify what my body is telling me is that I need nurturing. But because I have such a strong childhood coding, it was easy for me to identify that what I needed was what I thought I needed was my mom. I know that's complicated, but just hang in there with me. So this somatic work of what is your body trying to tell you don't even try this by yourself until you have some expertise in it. I would say work with either a coach that has a background in emotional intelligence, or ideally a coach that has a certification in Somatics therapists that has a certification and Somatics. But this work of what are you feeling? Were you feeling it? What does it have to tell you what do you need?

It's, it's a very hard thing to learn on your own. It's much easier to learn when somebody can help you facilitate the process. Because often we we try to ignore the body signals, like and sometimes we've been raised in this culture of like, feel the fear and do it anyway. Right. And so it's like, we try to tell ourselves that I'm not supposed to be feeling this fear or that this fear is irrelevant, or that it's not important. Like we we minimize the fear and sometimes that's completely appropriate. Sometimes it's not and all that we're doing is ghosting ourselves.

Or we're just disassociating disassociating entirely, and just not even noticing our body's signals. A lot. Most of us are completely disassociated. We don't know what our body is telling us. Some some people don't even know when they're hungry, or when they're not hungry or when they're dehydrated. So then when you've tried to go to okay person that doesn't even know when you're dehydrated. Let me ask you, how do you identify with this very subtle emotion that like that takes skill and practice.

So I talk a lot about do you feel your feelings can you identify them, but it's not easy? And it takes practice. Now, when we do give our body the mic so to speak, our body will tell us, not directly but it will tell us what's happening in our subconscious and or it will at least tell us what our subconscious is solving for. When we ask our body to community came with us, there's this innate intelligence. And sometimes there's nothing to be done. Sometimes we just have to feel the feeling. And then we're like, okay, I felt it. Now I'm gonna move forward.

Sometimes we realize, Oh, my body's feeling this, because it's just stuck in the past. It's not even realizing that we're in the present. Now, the subconscious, and its relationship to time is very murky. And so, you know, for me, I have often felt unsafe for what ever reason. And then I get into my body, and I let it speak. And I realized that I just needed to tell my body I needed to tell my subconscious, your safe, look around, I will point out to you all the ways in which you're safe, and it will reprogram my body will settle, it will slow, my heart rate will slow down, my breath will relax and expand and slow and deepen.

But I have to do the work of noticing and ideally writing it down. And even especially in those like deeply seated things, like for me the story that I'm not safe, and that my safety lies in the opinion of others, this is such a deeply seated thing that I've healed time and time again, and then it pops back up. Even once I've realized, Oh, I'm safe. My subconscious is acting on something that's not true.

I can move forward. But a lot of times, it's still moving forward, on quote, sea legs, it doesn't. Just because you've identified that what's happening in your body and in your subconscious isn't actually relevant to the current day doesn't mean you're going to be able to skip forward through life, it's still going to be uncomfortable, but it will unlock your ability to move forward.

So again, when you're doing the somatic work, the parts work, the working with the inner child, how that will play out, there's such a vast possibility of outcomes. Sometimes it's just going to open up a whole new Pandora's box of unacknowledged wounds. Sometimes there's very layered, I kind of feel like there's spider webs of beliefs that are all kind of connected and you you have to unravel a little bit at a time. Sometimes it's quick and easy. Sometimes it's just this one thing and you're like, oh, this thing happened, I made it mean that I wasn't safe. Now, in hindsight, I realized what it what I could have made it mean was that I can choose differently. And as soon as I rewrite that belief, I can choose differently, then I'm able to move forward.

So again, any anytime with the subconscious, but also with the body, you just can't predict where it's going to take you, I encourage you to be surrendered to the process. And remember that the subconscious demonstrates more than it communicates. But the closest you're ever gonna have to communicating with your subconscious, I believe is my personal opinion is in your body and in your body's awareness of the day to day. Part of the reason I believe that is because there are a lot of other tools which I'm about to talk about that are so profound and significant when working with your subconscious, but they are often tools that require a facilitator and that require a certain state of being so if it's therapy or hypnotherapy, etc.

You don't have access to that all the time. Some people won't have access to that ever. Whereas journaling and working with your body. These are things that we can all do. Okay, so that was the first to journaling, reflection working with your body Somatics.

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Hypnotherapy

Third tool for subconscious healing or rewriting is hypnotherapy. Personally, this is one of my favorite interventions. I think it's fascinating. Like just from an analytical point of view, I just think it's fascinating. I also think it's really relaxing. And as a deeply emotive sensitive being, I really enjoy the process of 
observing my emotions rather than being controlled by them. It seems like so with hypnotherapy, my experience is that my emotions still have the mic so to speak. They're still the voice in the room. But it's like I get to either turn the volume down or it's like I'm watching them from another room rather than experiencing them directly. So it creates this really lovely distance between me and the feeling that allows me to observe what happened in my subconscious.

I really love hypnotherapy. It's one of my favorites. Now of course caveat here, it's not free and you really 
You need to find somebody that you trust somebody licensed. I am as of this moment in time. I'm recording this in March 2024. I am not a licensed hypnotherapist, do not come to me for hypnotherapy. I love it, I advocate for it. But I'm not licensed. I have not trained, go find somebody that's trained. Go find somebody that you resonate with. And go find somebody that has a similar belief system as you do. So if you really feel that something has a past life, attachment or vibration to it, and you're working with somebody that has no belief in past lives, that's probably not the best fit for you. So you might want to do your research.

And another, I've said this about the subconscious mind in general, but I think the way that it plays out in hypnotherapy is very interesting and that sometimes, sometimes things don't go the way we think they're gonna go.

My most recent hypnotherapy session I was working on beliefs around money, and I was shocked at what came up for me. And the word money and finances what was nowhere near these beliefs. I like if you would ask me how this memory connects to money, I would have point blank told you that it doesn't. So again, the subconscious mind is a soup and we just don't know what what all is in there and how it's all connected. And that's for me, one of the reasons I really enjoy hypnotherapy is just like, wow, that was related to that, who knew I never would have gotten there on my own, I never would have gotten there through journaling, ever.

So here's my other caveat to. I'm mentioning it now in hypnotherapy, but really, it's true for all modalities. When I experience an aha moment or a healing of any kind, it is most effective when I immediately take action on the healing. This could be different things like taking action could be that I start to behave differently. It could be that I put in a different boundary that I make different decisions that I journal and I noticed look at all these things that I have done and I really cement for myself that new belief.

What can happen has happened for me in the distant past is that rather than immediately taking action, I just sit and appreciate and marvel at the experience. But I don't do anything to cement in the change to integrate the change. And when that has happened, it has been less effective.

Again, I think this is true with all subconscious healing practices. I've noticed it more with hypnotherapy because it's time to paid for intervention as opposed to journaling and somatic work which I do on a more regular basis sometimes with facilitators sometimes on my own. So anytime that I've I've paid for an intervention where I'm really trying to get at what's beneath the surface, what have I not been able to name? I do find that once I get that awareness is way more likely to stick and to become more impactful if I take immediate action.

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Hypnotherapy

Okay, so that's hypnotherapy. Again, hypnotherapy is my personal favorite. But I would never choose hypnotherapy instead of bodily somatic awareness parts work or instead of journaling, it's a compliment.

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Psychic Healing

Okay, so the next the fourth modality that I recommend a psychic healing. This is similar to hypnotherapy in the sense that usually psychic healing is getting you to a certain frequency a brainwave state and working at you at in a subconscious level. This can be Reiki and Eden energy medicine, it's more likely to be Theta Healing which is geared towards belief work. And there are absolutely other energetic modalities that I'm not aware of. So if you're going to work with a psychic healer of any kind, again, do your research.

Personally, I haven't found it necessary to work with someone that only identifies as a healer. I often will work with intuitives that are just intuitive and they can give you psychic information but then they can also facilitate a healing process and hold space for you as you heal.

This is all go with what resonates for you find somebody that you trust, find a process that makes sense to you that makes sense for you. Sometimes with psychic healing, this will look like an angelic intervention. You'll go into a meditative state and you might listen to a psychic tell you the angels are doing this, the angels are doing that. And you might not see that or have an awareness of it, but you might feel some tingling or you might feel a warmth. That that could be all it takes. Sometimes it's a guided journey, like, like you might do a guided meditation on working with your chakras or doing a cord cutting, like there's guided journeys for working with the subconscious mind releasing things that you no longer want to hold on to.

Again, psychic healing, just like hypnotherapy, I find it best to take action to do something to really cement in your body that you are different now. And whatever it was that you are releasing or rewriting that you get it into your body, and and integrate it. And remember it like that the subconscious mind is a soup and it's constantly being bombarded with collective consciousness with whatever you're consuming. And so even though you may have a really profound healing experience with whatever method or modality, it's never a one and done. Because we're always being bombarded with stimuli that our brain is sifting through.

Okay, so the last method for working with the subconscious, probably the most popular method is just talk therapy. Or there's other forms of therapy that might include tapping EMDR ART. Personally, the therapy that I've had, more specifically, I had counseling with tapping. And I did find tapping to have immediate effects that regular talk therapy would not have had. For me, tapping was usually not a one and done type of method, it usually wasn't as effective as hypnotherapy. But it was effective. And we it would be layer by layer over a period of time, I usually could tell that that tapping was effective, because either I would leave the session feeling more energized and more focused and alert, or I would feel really tired. Like I just I needed to lay down, I was releasing stuff, I need to drink water and lay down.

So for me tapping in conjunction with talk therapy EMDR eye movement desensitization. And reprocessing, is another really popular researched method for working with the subconscious mind. And the conscious mind. I've not personally tried it. But I know people that have had significant results, I've observed them over time, I've seen it for myself, and there's a lot of research behind it. So that's another avenue. And this is an avenue that if you have mental health insurance, something like EMDR or ART might be covered by mental health insurance, whereas something like hypnotherapy might be harder to find coverage for it.

So ART is accelerated resolution therapy. And again, not something I've done personally, but I have observed it and others and I've seen significant results. I've heard from people that they have significant results in one sitting. And I can I can vouch for it to that extent, all of these are researched methods to the tapping the EMDR and the AR T. And all of these are really good solid methods, especially if you're somebody that has really great insurance, and kudos to you if you are. So wow, this has been a long episode, but so good, right? The subconscious is so important, it's so important. So I encourage you to start working in the ways that you can and for me, that would be start with your body, what is your body doing telling you and if all you do is find one thing, just if you can only pay attention to one thing. So like, Okay, I'm going to pay attention to my heart rate, or I'm going to pay attention to my breath, or I'm gonna pay attention to my gut, whatever it is start to develop your awareness in your body of what's happening.

Also journaling those are two things that you can start to do for yourself. You can you can accomplish a lot in those two things. If you have the luxury, the time, the money, or the social network to have something facilitated for you. I highly highly, highly encourage some somatic experience even if it's not an ongoing practice for you, but having some sort of somatic experience is it will pay dividends. 

Five Ways to Heal the Subconscious: Talk Therapy
Conclusion

Again my favorites hypnotherapy, psychic healing is also a good option and talk therapy, also solid options, especially when paired with a research based method or a healing and changing your conscious and unconscious beliefs. So loves that is a wrap for our two part series on the subconscious mind and why it matters. And I just want to remind you that our brains are always trying to keep us safe. And our subconscious mind will make decisions for us ahead of time in order to keep us safe. And that is why it's important to do the work.

But I also want to inform you, you get to choose what you want to believe. So just because somebody tells you the stock market is volatile, doesn't mean that the the belief you want to encode in yourself is that the stock market is volatile, perhaps the belief you want to encode in yourself is that the stock market is fun, and I enjoy risk. You know, I don't know I'm not choosing that for you. But just giving you examples that as you go down this journey, you get to decide what you want to believe. Isn't that a beautiful gift that's part of the freewill that we get as divine beings having a human experience.

Remember, the subconscious demonstrates more than it communicates but if you want to communicate that will be found in the body.

So thank you for listening. I know this has been a long episode but I am about 100% sure that something in here was valuable for you. If so, share it with a friend and join us coming up Saturday April 13, one to 5pm subconscious sanctuary I will be partnering with my somatic coach Allison Reeves, and we will be working on somatic and psychic healing for the subconscious. It is going to be amazing. I'm so excited about it. I hope to see you there link is in the show notes. Have a good week loves next week. We are getting started at the end. We're gonna get started so come back. It's gonna be good. I'm so excited to talk to you next week loves bye.

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