Why do we hate Ourselves so much?

Key Takeaways from this episode

• Everyone and everything is equally divine and imperfect
• Self-hatred comes from misunderstanding our own divinity and purpose
• Living according to our soul's calling can help overcome self-loathing
• Imperfection is part of the human experience and does not diminish our worth
• We can choose to love ourselves despite any perceived flaws or mistakes
• Reaching out for support and affirmation from others can help when struggling

Transcript

Hello, love's welcome to the podcast. Normally when I record podcasts, I've wear my blue light glasses and look at the screen. But this episode is a vulnerable episode. So no glasses. Just me and the mic. I just got done with the reading. And in the reading we were answering Well, we didn't actually answer the question, but we were posing the question, why does it have to be so hard? And that question was a sort of affirmation for something that I was thinking about doing. And so now I'm doing it, I'm going to share with you a message that I channeled to begin with it was for myself, but it became pretty quickly apparent that it was for a larger audience than just me. I am asking the question, why do we hate ourselves so much. And I know that there are many of you out there that do not hate yourself and Bravo to you. And then I know that there are many of you out there that that do have some level of self loathing for some amount of time. So this is a message that I channeled for myself while I was out on a walk, the sound is going to be very different. There will be no video and the you will hear pauses I'll be either pausing the channeling because I'm going to go over a curb or avoid the, you know, the leaf blower machine. So it's going to be very different, but it's going to be me channeling from the guides to us about that question.

Why do we hate ourselves so much? What does spirit have to say about that?

I hope that you benefit from this episode. And if you're a person that found this through, because you googled that question, you know, please call somebody reach out. Look for a phone number in the show notes for a crisis hotline. And we'll talk soon love's I'm wishing you all the best. I'm wishing you all lots of love and I hope that a lot of that is coming from yourself to yourself. Alright, enjoy, and talk soon. This season on the living out love podcast, we are focusing on you, who you are, what motivates you, what you're here to contribute, and how you can expand will be utilizing my leadership skills and spiritual connection, diving deep into the Enneagram and astrology. Listen every week to become intimately aware of yourself. Only then can you heal and grow. Let's get to work loves.

Causes of Self-Hatred

Why do we hate ourselves? We hate ourselves because do not know that we are divine. And by divine. We mean you are the same as everything else. There's nothing about you, that is less than anything else on the planet. That the trees. Yeah, the people around you. It's not possible to be less than because you are all made up of the same things. The second primary reason that you hate yourself is because you do not understand that the imperfect is the human mind thinks that perfect, is divine. And the thing that should be strived for that if you are perfect, you will thus be more whole you do not understand that the imperfect is already perfect, because you are already holy, you cannot become more or less holy, you cannot become more or less divine, you already are that which you are and thus it is already done.

Embracing Imperfection

The imperfect of which you see in the human realm can never become more perfect than it already is. It can never be made up different matter different energy is that which it is. Those are the two primary reasons although there is a third and the third is that you have forgotten your purpose and that you are afraid of your purpose. When we disconnect from that which it is that we are here to do or when we turn away or face some obstacle into doing that which it is we are here to do that causes self-loathing. And the issue is you often in your human mind will not but no, you will not know that you are not doing what it is you're here to do. You will think you get up, you go to work and bills, to your children and community member in quote, to do everything right, and still not be doing what it is that your soul came here to do, and at a soul level to feel that. And your body will communicate that to you in whichever way your body communicates. When you are not on the path that your soul longs beyond, it causes a self-hatred. It is your brains incorrect assessment. Your brain feels that energy and interprets that as I am not who I am supposed to be. Rather than I am not doing what I'm supposed to do.

Sole Purpose

There is a caveat to the idea. The third point we make about why the sole purpose is a part of self-loathing. The caveat is you do get to decide this one. You don't get to decide that you are holy. And you don't get to decide that the imperfect is perfect, that is spiritual law. But you do get to decide whether or not you live out your soul's calling, that is a decision. And that is the ultimate nail in the coffin of self-hatred. For one may choose not to follow their soul calling. And they may choose it in a moment that feels 100% like love, self-protection, nurturing. But then wake up one day and have regret and feel as though they missed it. feel as though they were supposed to choose differently and turn that on themselves. Think that I should have known better I should have known that what felt like self-protection, really keeping myself small. I should have known that what felt like love was really enabling. We turn on our symbols. And here's where we come back to the first two points. The imperfect is already perfect. There is no perfect, there is no should have, because it is already perfect. And when you find yourself separated from your soul calling, you simply reconnect. And it is as simple as that your self-hatred is born of these three things are born of the unawareness or the forgetting that you are already divided already worthy, and nothing can change that. Nothing will ever change that is born of the forgetting or an awareness that everything is already perfect. Because everything is already divine and already holy. So thus, it is already perfect. And the third thing, this is the part that's changeable. Is the feeling that you are not following your soul's calling. This is the ultimate ego buster. I have not done what I came here to do. Not who I think I am and do not deserve to do the things I came here to do. I'm not going to be able to do the things I came here to do any sort of thought or belief you have feeling intuition, any sort of experience in your body that would tell you that you either would choose not to or not capable of or too afraid of that you would allow some obstacle to overcome your ability to live out your sole purpose. That is the self-hatred where you believe you're too weak to do what is yours. That is the self-hatred. And our dear ones, there is no such thing as too weak or too late or too slow. There is only divine imperfection divine perfection. It is your soul's calling because you are meant to follow the colleagues. How and when and you follow the calling and what that looks like is variable. And thus, it is all her. And so, to our ones that are struggling at this time, struggling with self-hatred, we see you, we feel it. And we ask that you let it go We ask that you suspend the idea that you are divine and holy, you're not ready to accept that and that is okay. But allow it to float in the ethers. And just accept that what is just accept the imperfection that there will always be imperfection and that there is no such thing as perfection. Just accept that there is no greater than because everything is divine. You don't have to put yourself in that category. If you are not ready. Don't think about people look around the grass, the cars, the curves, the buildings, the tree, look around it whatever is in front of you, and see that it is all already by. It is all already a physical incarnation of an invisible energy. Nothing can be greater or lesser than anything else. You can see that. And when you're ready, you will put yourself in that category.

Choosing Self-Love

 And then you will say well, why should I love myself if I'm the same as everybody else? And we say to you, why not? Why not. And then we would add because loving yourself feels better. Because loving yourself is more effective. And then we say and it's a choice. It's all imperfect. You can choose to not love yourself and to be miserable and to stay in self-hatred. That is absolutely a choice that you have. And you can also choose to just accept that you are just as divine and holy and worthy as everything and everyone else. You are just as imperfect as everyone else. And so why not. Just allow yourself to be that divine. Imperfect be. Why not just allow our dear ones we say to you, that nothing need be done. Close your eyes, take a breath, let the tears fall. Perhaps it is open your mouth and let the rage accept its full volume. Stomp your feet. And body would ever it is that your body wants to let go of at this time. You have to release the feeling bad before you can welcome the feeling of

hating yourself is a choice. And it's an error and thought. That's all that it is. Is just as imperfect. Everything else is imperfect. And as far as the human experience goes, it is just divine as everything else is that you get to do. You get to choose which part are you going to focus on? Are you going to see yourself as the whole divine forever worthy of being that also happens to be an imperfect human. That also happens to have the skills compassion and forgiveness because you are divine. That also happens to have the skills of self-hatred and judgment. Because you are human. And can you allow yourself to focus on than to hold two things is true. And end up in love. Would you allow yourself to hold both truth of yourself and when it comes time for you to fall into duality and polarity did you allow yourself to fall into the love worthiness And the oneness and the knowing more often than you fall into its shadow self-hatred is an error in thought it is a misbelief and it is optional and we would ask that you choose a different choice because why not? Lean towards the truth, your divinity which is inherently peaceful why not.

Seeking Support

We ask that on this day you reach out for help you reach out for connection, somebody that you know can have somebody that you know can affirm you and if you do not feel that you have that person that email Amy, Amy, Amy Hageman dot love and tell her you listen to the podcast and tell her that you need affirmation that we are here for you. We are here even when you feel that it cannot get any darker than there could not possibly be light. The light is within you. It is outside you. Significant. We are here. We honor you. We love you. We affirm and we leave you with that. Thank you for listening to the living out love podcast. If this episode was helpful for you. There are three ways that you can share the love. can send this episode to family brand neighbor. Leave me a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform or comment and ask questions on YouTube. This season is meant to be interactive. Thanks again for your presence. I appreciate you being here. Talk to you next week loves.