The Difference Between Receiving Feedback and Experiencing Conflict
Jul 20, 2022
When we're given negative feedback, it can be challenging to know how to react. Do we defend ourselves? Do we accept the feedback and try to change? Or do we simply ignore it? In this blog post, we'll explore different ways to react when given negative feedback and discuss the best way to handle conflict and give and receive feedback effectively.
Most of us tend to react defensively when given feedback. We try to explain our behavior, or, we blame the other person for being upset by loading “the problem” onto them rather than ourselves.
Another common reaction to receiving feedback is obsession. We take it too personally or make it bigger than it really is. Remember that feedback is always coming from someone else’s experience; sometimes their feedback, though talking about you, is actually more about them.
If you're unsure how to react when given negative feedback, take some time to calm down and think about the situation. What is your motivation? What is the threat? Once you clearly understand the situation, you'll be better equipped to handle it in the best way possible.
A similar approach can be used when conflict arises. There's no one way to handle conflict, but there are some key things to remember. First, it's essential to check in with yourself. Why are you feeling defensive? Once you understand that, it's easier to take a step back and approach the situation differently. Lastly, remember that you are already safe and loved. Keeping that in mind will help you approach conflict from a place of love and healing rather than fear.
Knowing your motivation is vital in determining how to react when given negative feedback.
If your motivation is defensive or self-preserving, it won't be easy to hear the feedback objectively. However, if your motivation is to heal, grow, or love, you are more likely to be able to listen and learn from the feedback. Thank you for reading; if you'd like to hear my personal stories related to these teachings, listen to this week's episode!
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